Relationships

What's Your Love Language?

The five ways affection gets expressed — words, time, acts, gifts, closeness. This one measures what you give, which is usually not what you want back.

12 questions · about 5 minutes

12 scenario choices across the five ways affection tends to get expressed. That five-part split is a useful vocabulary rather than a validated instrument — research has not supported it as a real typology — so read it as a way to think about what you give, not as a measurement. Original wording, not the branded questionnaire.

1. Someone you love has had a terrible day. What do you do first?

2. It is their birthday and you have limited time.

3. You are away from someone for two weeks.

4. How do people know you care about them?

5. Someone is quietly struggling and has not said so.

6. What makes you feel closest to someone?

7. You want to apologise properly.

8. A friend gets good news.

9. What do you find hardest to do?

10. Which complaint have you heard about yourself?

11. How do you show love to family, specifically?

12. If you could only keep one way of showing love:

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These tests are for education and self-reflection. They are not diagnostic instruments and should not be used to diagnose or treat a mental-health condition. Anyone feeling unsafe, overwhelmed, or at risk should contact local emergency services or a qualified mental-health professional.